August 12, 2012

Date Palm Flower Photo

The first time I saw a Date Palm tree flowering, I remember thinking that the pollen could be collected for a face powder. The massive cluster of thousands of flowers was so thick with silky pollen, that I felt a visceral sense of how rich and abundant we are on Mother Earth.

I remember making the Date Palm flower essence, going through my usual process and it just wasn’t working. I kept hitting walls and getting stuck. It was almost as if the plant was forcing me to try something new, to break the mould and find a new way.

So I sat for a while and let go of my agenda and usual ways of doing things. I sat still and relaxed for a while, opening myself up to a new way. In that moment the flood gates opened and I felt unstuck, expansive and creative. It was clear that this was one of the major aspects of the date palm flower – opening to a completely new – and effortless – way of doing things.

Date palms are over 50 million years old – so old that no one really knows their origination. Date Palm trees are dioecious, which means that half of the trees are female and half are male. The male tree has enormous clusters of flowers that do not produce fruit, but they are loaded with pollen. The wind blows the pollen from the male trees onto the female trees, resulting in pollination.

When the female flowers are pollinated, those female flowers turn into the delectable little sweet fruits that we know as dates. This relationship is such a wonderful example of our interconnectedness. If it weren’t for the wind and its beautiful pollen-filled breezes, we would not have luscious dates to snack on.

date fruit

And Date Palms require patience – the male trees don’t reach maturity until after twelve years – only then are they able to produce pollen for pollination. Female date palms fruit about 4-8 years after being planted. The fruits of the date palm tree, or dates, require almost six months to fully ripen! Once ripe and ready though – they are prolific. A single fully mature female tree will produce 100-250 lbs of dates per year.

The Date Palm tree has been on the planet for a long time, and one of its qualities is a sense of timelessness and euphoria. It offers a freedom from extremes, encouraging the ability to think outside the box, while maintaining mental sharpness and acuity.

Just as the Date Palm requires both male and female trees to procreate, its flower teaches us to find the balance between two extremes, and that the fruits of our labor arise when there is a meeting in the middle.

The Date Palm flower helps us find a middle ground between linear thinking and non- linear thinking, allowing both a sense of childlike wonder whiles maintaining a sense of responsibility and purpose.

Date Palm flower helps us understand the middle ground between any kind of extremes, helpful for group projects or teamwork situations in which creative solutions are needed. Date flower helps us think in a different way than before, expanding our perspectives, encouraging ah-ha moments and finding solutions that serve everyone.

In relationships Date flower enhances a desire to connect with other people, while simultaneously having a healthy understanding of one’s own needs. At work it balances the extremes of the tension and constriction of feeling overly responsible, with the extreme of being careless, or lacking discipline or boundaries.

The Date flower dissolves the extremes of: tension due to being overly responsible, and worrying too much about what others think. These habits can result in feeling constricted or having difficulties breathing or tension in general. This level of tension creates the habit of holding back, suppression or attachment.

The opposite extreme is: carelessness and lack of responsibility, discipline and boundaries. When there are no boundaries, we may become enmeshed with others to the point of non-productivity. Without boundaries, we may ignore the needs of others, or of ourselves.

The quality of the Date Palm flower is the experience of feeling carefree, dissolving the habit of going to extremes such as being careless or caring too much. It helps us to experience a sense of freedom and spaciousness, from which new ideas, innovations and ways of doing things can arise.

Date Palm Flower

When playing an instrument, the tension of the strings has to be in the middle – just right – to play beautiful music, not too loose or too tight. As you’re taking the Date flower elixir, you can reflect on when in your life you go to extremes. Reflect on the different areas of your life and see where you might be too rigid or too loose. An indication of going to the extreme of too rigid would be worrying too much about what others think, feeling overly responsible, feeling contracted or tense, or holding back.

Indications of the other extreme of ‘too loose’ would be a lack of discipline and boundaries. It may involve enmeshment with others, such as merging too much with others to the point of non-productivity, losing yourself or ignoring your own needs. It can also manifest as living in the clouds or lacking a clear plan or structure.

Notice when you go to extremes in any area of your life – either being overly responsible and tense about something, or too careless or lackadaisical about your principals or actions. Are there any areas of your life where you are either at one extreme: uptight or at the other end: careless?

These kinds of extremes can play out in a variety of situations, such as work, love relationships, food or lifestyle habits and belief systems. One example of too rigid would be a Western medical doctor who refuses to open his mind to any other healing modalities, who demonstrates an unwillingness to consider other viewpoints regarding wellness. An example of too loose would be a person that constantly searches for higher states of being through drugs or spiritual practices, to the point of being negligent of daily responsibilities.

Date Palm Flower

Granted, these are extremes, but we can look at how we approach what’s important to us in our lives and determine when we tend toward either extreme. Whether the extremes are around our love lives, our relationships to food, our daily habits or simply how we approach a project, Date flower helps us find a middle ground.

If you tend more toward too tight, find ways to loosen up. Write your to-do lists and notes in colorful markers, take classes in painting, sculpture, tai chi or dance to help you get into your body, feel the space around you and open up different parts of your brain. Also, when you’re physically (and mentally) flexible, it will create more spaciousness and effortless in your daily activities.

On the opposite extreme, in what areas of your life are you unaware, undisciplined, sloppy or careless with your intentions? In the areas that you tend more toward this extreme, use sharp, thin ball point pens to have your mind move more toward precision. Adding slightly more structure to your daily routines and activities may help you tighten up the direction you’re going in life and be more exacting and more sharply focused on what’s truly important to you.

Experience the magic of Date Palm!

Date Palm Elixir

{Magnifies} euphoria, totally letting go, sense of timelessness and freedom, while maintaining acuity, sharpness and sense of responsibility, mental sharpness; enhances childlike innocence, purity, pure perspective, gratitude and wonder; sense of coming down to earth; finding a balance and middle ground between linear thinking vs. non- linear thinking; flexibility as in not being too married to or rigid to one way of being/ doing; re-thinking, re-working the way you’ve done things before – finding new approaches; expanding your paradigm, thinking way outside the box; awareness of your own needs vs. merging with others; enhances your desire to really connect with people, but also have a healthy understanding of your own needs; end result is peacefulness, down to earth, grateful feeling. In general helps you find a middle ground between extremes, for example, not eating because you are feeling so euphoric vs. over-eating and over-indulging.

{Dissolves} Extremes of tension due to being overly responsible, worrying too much what others think; feeling constricted, hard to breathe, tension, holding back, suppressing or swallowing pain; and extremes of carelessness, lack of awareness, lack of responsibility; totally letting everything go in terms of rules, discipline, boundaries, sense of individuality; merging with others or one person to the point of non-productivity; desire to live in fantasy world, enmeshment with others, ignoring your own needs, losing yourself, lack of structure.

Love + flower petals,





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